Occasionally I’ve seen it suggested in discussions about female dominated relationships that chastity and orgasm control are the height of the power exchange. Sentiments to the effect that once a woman gains authority over that aspect of her partner she can control everything else. That’s bullshit, obviously. At least I hope…
Vocabulary
Recently I became a moderator for a new subreddit called /r/FemdomCommunity. (A subreddit being sort of like a forum with in a larger forum on the website Reddit, in case you didn’t already know.) I volunteered for the gig, because I am interested in seeing the space evolve into a helpful place…
In which I almost pass out.
So, how do I start this? Firstly, touch is my primary love language. It’s one of the main ways I express affection. I usually avoid touching people I don’t like or know, and I’m very touchy feel-y with people I do like. With people I love, Tavi for example, I…
Busy Busy Week
I’ve got piles of things I want to write about, but since it’s been almost a week since I’ve written. I figured I’d toss out a quick update. Last Wednesday I got to spend a ton of time with Tavi, which was awesome, since our midweek dates are usually kinda short. I…
Talk to your partner!
Seriously, do it. That’s always the answer to relationship questions. Even in… hell, especially in D/s relationships. More communication is a good thing. About once a week I see a thread pop up on /r/BDSMCommunity that goes something like this. My SO is submissive and I’m sort of new to…
Submissive in Love
She loves me. She loves me! SHE LOVES ME! If you’ve been reading through the lines at all for past few months you may have picked up on my falling in love with Tavi. I haven’t said it outright or written till this point because love is fucking scary and…
Spooning
I’m totally wiped out today. Too tired to finish a post I’ve been working on, or to write fiction, though I have something in the works I’m excited about. But, I want to write something, and since I’m having trouble getting to sleep I figured I share a bit about the wonderful…
Glutton for Punishment
If you read my last post, you know that Tavi had me refrain from masturbating for 3 1/2 days last week. If you follow my twitter you saw me whine semi-constantly all weekend. Sunday rolled around, Tavi allowed me to get off, and I didn’t die of sexual frustration. Here’s…
Beat it.
This morning I was already missing Tavi, we had a date night last night, but I’m just sort of desperately in need of attention right now. I’ll see her Sunday, but I wanted a little something more to hold me over. So I texted and asked if it would be weird if I asked…
Expiration date
You know what I hate about milk? That it expires. As soon as you purchase a gallon of milk you’re haunted by the looming inevitability that it will go sour. Even worse is when the “sell by” date is clear, but you can’t find the “definitely finish or throw out before”…