So I’ve been hanging out on reddit a bit, and it’s been pointed out that it’s not really the place to be for body-positive or sex positive thought. But there are some absolutely wonderful threads on sex too. And then there are things that catch me by surprise, like this…
Gay with Envy
So given the conversation about privilege that’s been going on on here I might catch a little flak for saying this but, I’m kinda jealous of my gay co-workers. Yeah so, I realize that I’ve got all this privilege as a Straight white middle class cis-male (and this is a…
Am I Sam?
If you weren’t already aware a SAM is a Smart-assed masochist and right now I’m wondering if I am one, or rather am I going to be one? and whether or not that is a bad thing. Obviously whether it’s good or bad would depend on my partner, I know…
Fetishize me Captain!
I’m sure you’re all aware that a sexual fetish is receiving sexual arousal from a specific object or situation. If this attraction causes psychological distress it’s a paraphilia. Generally I notice a “kink” is how people usually refer to a little something extra they like in their sex, (oh I’m just…
Kissing, Sigh.
Recommended listening: Swimming Pool – The Submarines I miss kissing. Often. As much as I think/fantasize about sex, I’m just as likely to be thinking about kisses. With the exception of a Chinese karaoke hostess in Dailang, I haven’t been kissed since my last relationship, which was so long ago my…
Realism
Things I was never prepared to think about
From growing up in a conservative and religious environment I have this long list of ideas that I never had to think about before. It isn’t that the people around me were, for example, anti-feminist (though some of them probably were) but “feminists” were more likely to be a punchline, than feminism was…
Well, Shit.
I don’t want to write a post every single time I go on a date, even though, ostensibly the blog is about my search for a partner, I just don’t want to be overly repetitive. So I was going to wait until my second date to write about this woman I’ve been talking…
Who wants to be an Alpha Male?
So, I’m of course doing my level best to avoid fitting into the stereotype of submissive guys, I’m working on getting fit, I don’t send unsolicited creepy e-mails, to dominant identified women, I try not to obsess about hyper-specific and unrealistic fantasies. You know, all that. But as I read around in my admittedly rather insular community…
Wildly Hypothetical
Now, we all know of course that men aren’t allowed to show emotion, (there was a brief period growing up where it seems women were looking for sensitive men, but that was over well before I began dating.) Anyway, Chiefly among the emotions a man is not supposed to express is loneliness. …