Now, I’m not talking about that. I just wanted to make a quick comment on how frequently in artistic depictions “dominant” translates to “larger than.” This was brought to my mind today seeing this picture show up on tumblr and being quite confused as to whether the woman is supposed to be…
Never quite fit in.
I’ve been meaning to write this post a bit sooner, as it’s sort of related to Ambiversion, but I had a very busy week and then spent all weekend in Bellingham for a wedding. Anyway I’m trying to build a social life as a single young adult in the city, but I…
Ambiversion
I went home early last night. Not super early mind you, but eleven instead of one, and instead of staying for the after party. I was tired, probably because I’ve been getting up at four every morning for work, but still, I didn’t used to be like this. When I…
Virgin Shaming and Kink
I’m a bit of an odd duck I’m sure you’ve realized by now. Being both an abstinent, virginal, Christian boy and a submissive, masochist, kink blogger is hardly a common pairing. While I’ve thought long and hard about how I might go about making kink and submission sound appealing to…
Catwoman: The Difference between Domme and Dominantrix
First off, stop reading my blog and go read this amazing post here, on Delving into Deviance about performative gender roles and BDSM. Dev, if you didn’t know, also wrote The Devaluation of Male Submission which kicked off a whole bunch of dialogue that has made it easier for me…
Dominance by Denial
One of the most common little themes I see floating around the discussion of Femdom relationships is that “the way” to get compliance from your male sub is to deny him sex. Not just sex, but sometimes any touch, or affection or permission to view his partners body. Which, listen…
A blogger’s work is never done.
So many of my posts have been written in the wee hours. That magical time when instead of letting me sleep my brain shifts into overdrive and floods my mind with ideas, words and phrases that I want to share. But right now I’m geting up before dawn every morning,…
Tell me again, How can a man be submissive and sexy?
I’m still struggling to find a way to be a sexy man. One of my major stumbling blocks is that the foundation of heterosexual male attractiveness in our culture is masculinity, which is always coded as dominant (among other things.) In preparation and inspiration for this post I read another…
Under-thinking precedes Over-thinking
If you are at all familiar with my blog you should be able to tell that I over think almost everything, especially in regards to inter-personal relationships. Except sometimes I don’t. You may recall that I totally jumped the gun on signing up for OKCupid. I sometimes think about finding…
For sale, to Good Home.
I was going to hold off on writing on this topic until I had a new job (still working on that) cause I’m not after sympathy, I just want to discuss submissiveness and and depression. Not that there is a connection or even a correlation between the two, but since there are 18.8…