I’ve learned a lot from porn over the years. I mean that. If you can look past the commodity that mainstream porn is trying to sell you, there is a lot of information about sex and eroticism to be gleaned. There is even more if you look at the work…
How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive
There are a lot of posts, guides, lists, and how-tos floating around online telling submissive men how to find themselves a dominant woman. And there are lots of guides available on how to go about dominating a submissive man. But I’ve noticed a distinct lack of guidance and advice specifically for dominant…
Getting off isn’t so easy
Something I remember reading when I first started looking into BDSM was that it wasn’t necessarily sexual for some people. This was a little tricky to grasp for me because it is pretty intensely sexual for me. Well, parts of it are. D/s is definitely how I enjoy my romantic and sexual interactions to play out,…
Young Kinky People
There isn’t exactly a wealth of information aimed at young kinky people. There are a few resources (such as Scarleteen) which provide some information of BDSM to younger people, but for the most part kinksters are assumed to be established adults. In any case, I feel like they’re isn’t a…
Tell me again, How can a man be submissive and sexy?
I’m still struggling to find a way to be a sexy man. One of my major stumbling blocks is that the foundation of heterosexual male attractiveness in our culture is masculinity, which is always coded as dominant (among other things.) In preparation and inspiration for this post I read another…
Going to bat
The struggle to make male submission an accepted expression of sexuality is obviously just one teeny-tiny part of a larger struggle for the freedom of sexual expression everywhere. It’s one of those instances, where I figure one should lead, follow or get out of the way. I very much appreciate the…
Polished Off
Since I don’t already spend enough time online I created a reddit account a few weeks ago. Before work this moring I saw this post, and it has been bugging me all day. So that sucks for Aaron, and it’s not really cool for Brittany here, to publicly announce that…
Freedom?
You know what I kink on harder than pegging, or spanking, or biting, or gingers? Ownership, and symbols of ownership. It’s hard to explain, My masochism seems to me a relatively innocuous kink compared to the desire to have someone else control my autonomy. Which is why I found it easier to explain my…
Premature
I have a plan. Or rather, I had a plan, for the next five months. I was going to hit the Gym, find a new job, and then shop around for the best way to start actively seeking a partner. I signed up for OKcupid the other day. So far,…