You’ll notice I ended the title sentence with a period, not an exclamation point.
It wasn’t bad, in fact, as a practice date I think it went fairly well.
We met in a bookstore, I got there early, so did she, so she recognized me in the sci-fi section, which I found a tad embarrassing, which added to the slight nervousness I felt.
(Also, like I said, she recognized me, I wouldn’t have recognized her. So ladies, remember when you’re picking out profile pictures, that looking cute ought to be a lower priority than looking like yourself.)
It was supposed to be a lunch date, I was nervous and skipped breakfast, she apparently ate a huge breakfast, and so we just went to the bookstore cafe, where I had a mocha and coffee cake, and she had water. Which was weird I thought.
Point of the story is, there was no chemistry, which is why I’m happy to have gotten this face to face out of the way sooner rather than later. I have doubts about how much chemistry one can be sure of online, and trust interpersonal interaction as a better medium by which to judge romantic potential.
Also she thinks people should be friends for an extended length of time before dating, which I really don’t have the patience for if there are sparks, if there aren’t sparks that seems like entirely too much effort to put into getting to know someone.
So, all in all I feel like my expectations have been appropriately lowered for this whole online dating thing, and I think having done this, I’ll find the process (which at times makes me feel like I’m “courting” more than one woman at the same time, which in turn makes me feel like a jerk) more comfortable, since it is abundantly clear that I may need to go through a lot of matches before I find someone with real potential.
Glad the first round is out of the way and was not traumatic.
Did she buy a water, or just drink free water?
Not that it matters, but I’m wondering just how weird it was (purchasing a bottle of water is, in my book, slightly less odd than meeting you for a “lunch date” and then just drinking free water).
Free water, it was odd.
It could have been soooo much worse. =P
Water though? What an odd bird.
Well she could just be nervous eating around people. It’s one of those issues I used to have. I’d go on dates and the guys would be like “Erm…are you enjoying yourself?” because they’d managed to take down half their meal and I’d only nibbled on an egg roll or something. I’d at least *try* to make it not so obvious I wasn’t eating.
It’s how I used to deal with the anxiety.
If I ate, my already tumultuous stomach would have decided to toss it all back up.
Not cute at all.
Lady D