Premature

I have a plan.

Or rather, I had a plan, for the next five months. I was going to hit the Gym, find a new job, and then shop around for the best way to start actively seeking a partner.

I signed up for OKcupid the other day.

So far, I’m not sure how I feel about it. In general I’ve never liked the idea of online dating, it’s so unromantic, to have a computer find you a partner. Still I’m looking for something so particular that I need some help.

I don’t know if I will have better luck finding someone who fits with me on all the levels I need, by looking for compatible women in “vanilla” spaces and hope they’re open to being dominant (more than open) or by looking for compatibility in BDSM oriented spaces, trying to find a domme, who shares my values.

When it comes to setting up a profile, I don’t know how much of this information to lead with. If I mention the Christian thing, am I going to lose all the kinky ladies, cause I sound too uptight? If I mention my kinks am I going to freak out the Christian girls, cause I sound like a perve?

Meanwhile neither of those things addresses the rest of who I am and what I’m into, even though they’re an important part of the framework of who I am, There are so many other facets to my personality.

Dominance is important in a significant other, because it turns me on, not just sexually, but emotionally I am comforted by the idea of having someone to make certain decisions.

But, If I’m going to hand over control of my life to someone, it’s super important that she is a Christian, and is going to lead me (am I really about to say this?)  along the path of righteousness.

Even if I find those two things, I still want more. (greedy bugger aren’t I?) I want a smart, funny, hyper-literate, verbose, empathetic, sarcastic, pop-culture junkie with goals, and motivation. (with finger nails that shine like justice, and a voice that is dark, like tinted glass.)

Anyway, advice on the Okcupid sitch, anyone? What do you think I should lead with?