Below I’ve included the original draft document for a post I referenced earlier. Dishevelled Domina was a Lifestyle kinkster from a Southern Baptist background (if I recall correctly.) Very kind and generous with her time. I think pleased to find another person grappling with the unique mental gymnastics required to…
Unchained
I’ve mentioned on twitter that the lock to my collar ended up triggering a previously unsuspected nickel allergy. It took me about a week to figure out what was going on, and start looking for solutions. The first thing we tried was coating the back with nail polish. The cheap…
I’m not into scat
Between here and reddit, I’ve been asked a few times for advice on how to go about looking for a kinky relationship. I do my best to help, but I don’t have all the answers. I’m in my first one ever and I lucked into that one by virtue of…
Achievement Unlocked
There is a bit of a void in my life right now when it comes to male companionship. After living last year with three very bro-y dudes (Four if you count their buddy who stayed over all the time) I usually don’t really feel much need to seek out any…
How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive
There are a lot of posts, guides, lists, and how-tos floating around online telling submissive men how to find themselves a dominant woman. And there are lots of guides available on how to go about dominating a submissive man. But I’ve noticed a distinct lack of guidance and advice specifically for dominant…
Change of plans
I had a date with Tavi on Saturday, probably the last real date night we’re going to have for a few weeks as she’s cramming for the Gmat right now. We had plans for doing some new play, with a toy she brought back from kinkfest, and I was pretty…
More role conflict
I’m not sure if this is going to be interesting at all, it’s more of the same old thing I’ve been writing for a bit, however, if down the line I write about doing some things, I want my readers to know that I’ve been doing all the requisite consideration…
Safeword
There was a post I was thinking about writing at one point, about how silly it is that first piece of advice often given to people beginning to explore kink is to have a safeword. Actually, I still think it’s a little ridiculous for the first piece of advice for a couple beginning…
Size shouldn’t matter, right?
Now, I’m not talking about that. I just wanted to make a quick comment on how frequently in artistic depictions “dominant” translates to “larger than.” This was brought to my mind today seeing this picture show up on tumblr and being quite confused as to whether the woman is supposed to be…
Rainchecked!
My play-date had been postponed till next month. Something important came up on her end, I didn’t ask what. While a small disappointment, the news did alleviate the butterflies I was starting to get. The nervous excitement of a new social event, and naughty fun. It’s also given me more…