I originally posted this on Tumblr, before I started this blog. I’m quite satisfied with this little post on masochism, and occasionally link it to other things, (like most recent post) but every time I do I have to hunt through my archives to find it, so Now I’m putting it here…
How it’s going
Since one of the big things I am looking for in a romantic partner is shared religious beliefs, I anticipate that I am going to have to either introduce the concept of BDSM to this hypothetical future partner or perhaps seriously change her perception of BDSM. I think it’s why…
Of two (or more) minds
Clarisse Thorn, who I’ve been reading more and more recently, posted a comment on her most recent post that really encapsulates something I’ve been trying to express for a while. … people have fragmented selves and non-unified minds; we’re pulled in so many directions by biology, culture, outside incentives, etc. But…
Quick Dirty Thought.
I haven’t written anything in the last week, I’ve got some posts on deck, but nothing I’m going to finish tonight. I have a quick thought that I wanted to put up and see if it sparks discussion. I see on forums and stuff, dominant/sadist identified people struggling with how…
Realism
Well, Shit.
I don’t want to write a post every single time I go on a date, even though, ostensibly the blog is about my search for a partner, I just don’t want to be overly repetitive. So I was going to wait until my second date to write about this woman I’ve been talking…
Freedom?
You know what I kink on harder than pegging, or spanking, or biting, or gingers? Ownership, and symbols of ownership. It’s hard to explain, My masochism seems to me a relatively innocuous kink compared to the desire to have someone else control my autonomy. Which is why I found it easier to explain my…
Premature
I have a plan. Or rather, I had a plan, for the next five months. I was going to hit the Gym, find a new job, and then shop around for the best way to start actively seeking a partner. I signed up for OKcupid the other day. So far,…
I don’t wanna be where The wild things are
I’ve read a few things this week, that had me thinking about “the BDSM scene” and why I’m disinterested in it. Even though I feel as if my long term happiness is dependent on finding a woman whose desires mesh with mine, I don’t really want to join the community…