I’m a bit of an odd duck I’m sure you’ve realized by now. Being both an abstinent, virginal, Christian boy and a submissive, masochist, kink blogger is hardly a common pairing. While I’ve thought long and hard about how I might go about making kink and submission sound appealing to…
Catwoman: The Difference between Domme and Dominantrix
First off, stop reading my blog and go read this amazing post here, on Delving into Deviance about performative gender roles and BDSM. Dev, if you didn’t know, also wrote The Devaluation of Male Submission which kicked off a whole bunch of dialogue that has made it easier for me…
Caveats and addendums
Being that my ideal romantic d/s partner is a bit of a tall order, and I’m interested in having my fancy tickled in the meantime I’ve been giving some thought to finding a casual play partner. This isn’t exactly a 180* from my previous position on casual play and the…
Tell me again, How can a man be submissive and sexy?
I’m still struggling to find a way to be a sexy man. One of my major stumbling blocks is that the foundation of heterosexual male attractiveness in our culture is masculinity, which is always coded as dominant (among other things.) In preparation and inspiration for this post I read another…
Curiouser and curiouser.
So I have a younger sibling, who is pretty cool, I guess, I’ve often said they were trying to be a miniature version of me growing up. A few months ago we were talking, and when the subject came up of my most recently read books came up, I mentioned Kushiel’s dart…
For sale, to Good Home.
I was going to hold off on writing on this topic until I had a new job (still working on that) cause I’m not after sympathy, I just want to discuss submissiveness and and depression. Not that there is a connection or even a correlation between the two, but since there are 18.8…
Going to bat
The struggle to make male submission an accepted expression of sexuality is obviously just one teeny-tiny part of a larger struggle for the freedom of sexual expression everywhere. It’s one of those instances, where I figure one should lead, follow or get out of the way. I very much appreciate the…
As close as it gets #6 True Blood
True Blood is a marvelously sexy HBO program that despite pushing a lot of envelopes still seems to fall into the same tired routine of making Female characters that display both Dominance and sexuality, evil (or at the very least unstable.) Up until now, maybe, hopefully, I’ll explain. The premise…
Heaven’s in the Details
Apropos of the correspondence in this post, and the comments on this one, I’m going to try to express how I can see BDSM as not just sexual but romantic. Dominance and submission are the elements of BDSM I that I see as having the most potential to be an…
How can that Turn you on?
I originally posted this on Tumblr, before I started this blog. I’m quite satisfied with this little post on masochism, and occasionally link it to other things, (like most recent post) but every time I do I have to hunt through my archives to find it, so Now I’m putting it here…