I had a bit of a hellacious week at work, and I’ve sat down for at least a little while every night to try and put this post into the right words. I haven’t managed so far, but I need to put it out there, because I have a (slightly)…
Freedom?
You know what I kink on harder than pegging, or spanking, or biting, or gingers? Ownership, and symbols of ownership. It’s hard to explain, My masochism seems to me a relatively innocuous kink compared to the desire to have someone else control my autonomy. Which is why I found it easier to explain my…
Can’t hardly wait
I’m not sure if it comes across in the tone of my writing or not, but when I mention my disinclination to enter the scene, or my trepidation about jumping into the lifestyle, or even just explaining my desires to a future girlfriend, I’m trying to convince myself as much as anyone else. It first…
I don’t wanna be where The wild things are
I’ve read a few things this week, that had me thinking about “the BDSM scene” and why I’m disinterested in it. Even though I feel as if my long term happiness is dependent on finding a woman whose desires mesh with mine, I don’t really want to join the community…
Lock the closet door
I mentioned here that I live with a couple of guys who while not bros entirely are capable of emitting frattyness at alarmingly high levels. Getting intelligent conversation out of them, can be a Sisyphean endeavor. Often, our “conversations” boil down to obnoxious games of would you rather. Being constantly…
When I say Submissive…
My personal favorite author and definite candidate for a later as close as it gets post Neal Stephenson included the following exchange in his genre-bending epic Cryptonomicon “I don’t like the word ‘addict’ because it has terrible connotations,” Root says one day, as they are sunning themselves on the afterdeck.…
What’s your biggest Fantasy?
There’s a hell of a question. At first glance it seems a completely reasonable thing to ask, but I think it has got to be a lot harder to answer than it ought to be. First of all, there are fantasies and there are fantasies, and there is a pretty…