Occasionally I’ve seen it suggested in discussions about female dominated relationships that chastity and orgasm control are the height of the power exchange. Sentiments to the effect that once a woman gains authority over that aspect of her partner she can control everything else. That’s bullshit, obviously. At least I hope…
In which I almost pass out.
So, how do I start this? Firstly, touch is my primary love language. It’s one of the main ways I express affection. I usually avoid touching people I don’t like or know, and I’m very touchy feel-y with people I do like. With people I love, Tavi for example, I…
Busy Busy Week
I’ve got piles of things I want to write about, but since it’s been almost a week since I’ve written. I figured I’d toss out a quick update. Last Wednesday I got to spend a ton of time with Tavi, which was awesome, since our midweek dates are usually kinda short. I…
Talk to your partner!
Seriously, do it. That’s always the answer to relationship questions. Even in… hell, especially in D/s relationships. More communication is a good thing. About once a week I see a thread pop up on /r/BDSMCommunity that goes something like this. My SO is submissive and I’m sort of new to…
Submissive in Love
She loves me. She loves me! SHE LOVES ME! If you’ve been reading through the lines at all for past few months you may have picked up on my falling in love with Tavi. I haven’t said it outright or written till this point because love is fucking scary and…
Glutton for Punishment
If you read my last post, you know that Tavi had me refrain from masturbating for 3 1/2 days last week. If you follow my twitter you saw me whine semi-constantly all weekend. Sunday rolled around, Tavi allowed me to get off, and I didn’t die of sexual frustration. Here’s…
Expiration date
You know what I hate about milk? That it expires. As soon as you purchase a gallon of milk you’re haunted by the looming inevitability that it will go sour. Even worse is when the “sell by” date is clear, but you can’t find the “definitely finish or throw out before”…
Escalate this!
As I said, Tavi and I discussed a bit of escalation in our relationship Friday. She’s given me plenty of time to suss out what I want before we move forward, but for the the most part I think I know. If you’ve been reading you know that while we’ve…
My Birthday, her toy.
Friday was my twenty-fourth birthday. Honestly it was the best birthday I can remember having. I although I’ve got a bit of a stomach bug that’s been going around. I spent the better part of the day trying to get over than so I could enjoy the evening with Tavi. I…
Switch
Tavi wanted me to see her bottom Thursday (The verb, not the noun, which is spectacular.) We had discussed a quiet dinner date for Thursday night, and then on Wednesday, she suggested that after dinner I could accompany her to Grind (A dance and BDSM party) at the CSPC and watch…