I’m taking a film criticism class this quarter, and for my mid-term I ended up watching what is possibly the best film-handling of BDSM I’ve ever seen. Dottie Gets Spanked explores the development of kinky feelings in a young boy in an insightful and sensitive manner. It’s a short…
More Submissive than Straight
I’m writing a good deal about identity lately, just not here. Both my psych and sociology classes have me writing papers about my identity. When it comes to my sexual identity, I write about being straight, because that’s the simplest way to put it. I feel, however, that my straightness…
Beat it.
This morning I was already missing Tavi, we had a date night last night, but I’m just sort of desperately in need of attention right now. I’ll see her Sunday, but I wanted a little something more to hold me over. So I texted and asked if it would be weird if I asked…
Heaven’s in the Details
Apropos of the correspondence in this post, and the comments on this one, I’m going to try to express how I can see BDSM as not just sexual but romantic. Dominance and submission are the elements of BDSM I that I see as having the most potential to be an…
Of two (or more) minds
Clarisse Thorn, who I’ve been reading more and more recently, posted a comment on her most recent post that really encapsulates something I’ve been trying to express for a while. … people have fragmented selves and non-unified minds; we’re pulled in so many directions by biology, culture, outside incentives, etc. But…
Quick Dirty Thought.
I haven’t written anything in the last week, I’ve got some posts on deck, but nothing I’m going to finish tonight. I have a quick thought that I wanted to put up and see if it sparks discussion. I see on forums and stuff, dominant/sadist identified people struggling with how…
Wildly Hypothetical
Now, we all know of course that men aren’t allowed to show emotion, (there was a brief period growing up where it seems women were looking for sensitive men, but that was over well before I began dating.) Anyway, Chiefly among the emotions a man is not supposed to express is loneliness. …
What’s your biggest Fantasy?
There’s a hell of a question. At first glance it seems a completely reasonable thing to ask, but I think it has got to be a lot harder to answer than it ought to be. First of all, there are fantasies and there are fantasies, and there is a pretty…