Next Friday I’m going to be at the CSPC’s Women on Top play party meeting the woman who responded to my personal ad and then had to Raincheck our previous plans. This means I’m going to be shirtless (at least) in public and right now, I feel pretty damn good…
Tell me again, How can a man be submissive and sexy?
I’m still struggling to find a way to be a sexy man. One of my major stumbling blocks is that the foundation of heterosexual male attractiveness in our culture is masculinity, which is always coded as dominant (among other things.) In preparation and inspiration for this post I read another…
Going to bat
The struggle to make male submission an accepted expression of sexuality is obviously just one teeny-tiny part of a larger struggle for the freedom of sexual expression everywhere. It’s one of those instances, where I figure one should lead, follow or get out of the way. I very much appreciate the…
How can that Turn you on?
I originally posted this on Tumblr, before I started this blog. I’m quite satisfied with this little post on masochism, and occasionally link it to other things, (like most recent post) but every time I do I have to hunt through my archives to find it, so Now I’m putting it here…
How it’s going
Since one of the big things I am looking for in a romantic partner is shared religious beliefs, I anticipate that I am going to have to either introduce the concept of BDSM to this hypothetical future partner or perhaps seriously change her perception of BDSM. I think it’s why…
Quick Dirty Thought.
I haven’t written anything in the last week, I’ve got some posts on deck, but nothing I’m going to finish tonight. I have a quick thought that I wanted to put up and see if it sparks discussion. I see on forums and stuff, dominant/sadist identified people struggling with how…
Addressing Privilege for the first time
For the first time in my life I’ve started to really examine privilege. Up until this point (as a straight white male) it has been easy to ignore the issue of privilege. Not just easy, effortless, I know I’ve heard it mentioned before, but it was usually in sort of…
Fetishize me Captain!
I’m sure you’re all aware that a sexual fetish is receiving sexual arousal from a specific object or situation. If this attraction causes psychological distress it’s a paraphilia. Generally I notice a “kink” is how people usually refer to a little something extra they like in their sex, (oh I’m just…