So I posted a personal ad in a few different spots online Sunday. I also Put up a profile on CollarMe, not that I’ve ever heard anything good about the site, but it takes little effort for me to post a profile with a few relevant details.
So far results have been Ok. I will going to be meeting a woman at the CSPC next Friday to see about doing some impact play.
Another woman replied, and then (after what must have been a flattering amount of browsing my OKCupid profile) decided that I was not a suitable play-partner because I don’t believe in evolution (the particulars of what I do and don’t believe didn’t come into discussion and would take up far too much space to describe here, suffice it to say that it is quite a small matter in my mind and of little consequence to my manner or daily life.)
There actually some evolutionary ideas to which I do subscribe
The whole thing just tickled me, because her wording was not dissimilar to my response to a woman some time ago, (long before I was considering casual play as a viable option for me) whose FL profile made specific mention that she was a practicing Pagan.
Now it could just be a Watersian tactic on her part to promote adherence to the scientifically approved world-view, but the similarity to my own religion inspired response was amusing to me.
Oh, And I’ve gotten my first ridiculous kink related message. On CollarMe a woman wrote me:
Hello slave…what are you looking for?
and that’s it. I’ve gotten a few, impersonal and/or stupid messages on OKCupid, but this is the first time I’ve gotten an equivalent to one of those obnoxious messages you always hear dominant women are putting up with. What’s most absurd about it is that the first paragraph of my CM profile is a single sentence which reads:
In Brief, I’m looking for either a LTR with someone who is perfectly suited for me and my rather unique combination of desires, values and interests or more realistically at the moment a fun woman of the toppish/dominant/sadistic persuasion who would like to get together for some non-sexual S&m play.
I go on to link my blog which has all the information about me anyone could possibly need, and quite enough to realize that I’m not going to respond well to a stranger calling me slave out of the blue.
I considered responding with some snark, but right now I think it may be better to just let the daft bint stew in silence wondering why a choice morsel such as myself wants nothing to do with her.
Very few people are going to get away with calling me anything but my name to begin with, unless of course I’m already smitten.
OMG That woman’s arms!!! *dies of jealousy*
Did you say something?
Ferns
I didn’t even notice her arms, but it’s not like you’ve got anything to be jealous of, I’ve seen your guns.
*smile* Thank you, and thank you also for graciously ignoring the fact that my comment actually added nothing useful to the conversation…
Ferns
I began following your blog fairly recently after a Dumb Domme recommendation and am enjoying getting a peek at the sex/love life of a submissive man. So thank you for that! I’m enjoying the parallels and it feels like a bit of camaraderie between us (even if that’s only in my head.) I’m also very curious to see how your search progresses. I haven’t begun mine yet. I’m not ready to start the (what often feels like a monumental) task of finding another Dom. My emotions are still too tender from the split. I wish you the best, though, and can’t wait to read more.
Well thank you for following, I’m glad you’re enjoying it.
I hope when you begin searching you have good luck.
While finding a partner is a trying task, and it becomes more difficult with each attribute you add to your “must-have” list, I don’t think it’s impossible, I mean, you and I are out there, with 6,973,738,433 people out there, someone must be a perfect match.
Thanks for Reading!
“I considered responding with some snark, but right now I think it may be better to just let the daft bint stew in silence wondering why a choice morsel such as myself wants nothing to do with her.”
I often reply with a nonsensical word or phrase. I believe “platypus” was the last thing I responded to a “Hello Mistriss, want to pleese U” message on Fetlife. If I’m feeling really creative, I respond with song lyrics.
[Peroxide, look away, this isn’t for you]
Heather… I know! This is why I love Peroxide! He’s kinda dreamy, and smart, and smart is dreamy. You’re welcome. 🙂
I was thinking “I’m looking for someone who will find out if I want to be their slave before addressing me as such.” which has a nice, “don’t you feel stupid” vibe to it.
But I think total silence might have more of a sting. Where as I feel like nonsense would bring further messages and I have better things to do with my time.
*covers eyes with hands*
*peeks through gap in fingers*
I’m having similar experiences on OKC and CM (where I haven’t even actually filled out my profile).
Now I’m wondering what sort of kinky evolution-inspired sadism that woman had in mind would look like.
(Scene: A woman is whipping a man.)
“What are you?”
“A worm, Mistress?”
“What did you say?”
“A worm, Mistress!”
(She stops whipping him.)
“Listen, I think it’d be more accurate if you say you’re an ape. Evolutionarily speaking.”
Now that I think of it:
(Scene: A woman is whipping a man.)
“What are you?”
“Homo Habilis, Mistress?”
“Really? it looks like you’re Homo Erectus from where I’m standing.”
*Boom tish*
First of all I’d like to say I mean no offence at all. Now:
While I consider myself a pretty open and accepting person, I, too, have a problem with being more than friends with what I find to be overly religious people. And it would definitely be a deal-breaker for any kind of sexual/love relationship. Actually, one of the two deal-breakers I have. Why? Because it just doesn’t make any sense. For me, not believing in evolution but instead in something utterly unrealistic is something that, in order to believe it, one must be rather delusional, and that I can’t deal with. And I haven’t had a single constructive argument with a religious person, it always leads up to: “Well, you don’t believe, so you can’t understand.” which is the worst argument ever.
Not having sex before marriage? Fine. But not believing in evolution? Seriously?
Yeah, I wouldn’t seek to date or have a deep romantic relationship with someone who wasn’t religious, I get that, that’s fine.
But I don’t have any problem spending time with secular folks, I generally enjoy their company. If I insisted that potential play partners shared my personal beliefs, now that would be delusional.
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My favorite bit of CollarMe ridiculousness I’ve seen was a profile that started with, “I’m looking for a straightforward submissive without any other psychological problems.”
Ha!
I didn’t use it for very long but I don’t feel I got anything of value from Collar Me.