It’s a good question, and bears considering for this second go around. There are a few reasons I have decided to come back to blogging, a lot of it is predicated on the same desire to have a resource like the one I wanted when I was 22. The internet…
Cha-cha-changes pt. 2: Chastity
Part two of my fast-forward catch-up series on the past four years of my kinky life. Read part one here. It was a bit of a whim. We had been practicing orgasm denial for quite a while, and as my sex drive fluctuated, between meds, being overworked… Orgasm Denial often…
As close as it gets: Dottie Gets Spanked
I’m taking a film criticism class this quarter, and for my mid-term I ended up watching what is possibly the best film-handling of BDSM I’ve ever seen. Dottie Gets Spanked explores the development of kinky feelings in a young boy in an insightful and sensitive manner. It’s a short…
How do I beg?
I’ve learned a lot from porn over the years. I mean that. If you can look past the commodity that mainstream porn is trying to sell you, there is a lot of information about sex and eroticism to be gleaned. There is even more if you look at the work…
Goodbye Kiss
Chaos has gone home for the holidays. *Sigh* We spent most of the weekend together, but on Tuesday we both had much to do. By the time I got to her apartment we had only a little time before it was time to head to the airport. I did get to give…
May I please be weak?
There is a lot of crap written about BDSM (and F/m relationships in particular.) We’ve all seen unrealistic, downright dangerous advice doled out to the eager and inexperienced, personal fantasies framed as sage instruction, and unlikely erotic narratives posted in the guise of autobiographical truth. This sort of post soon…
Practically a Superhero
On the off chance you read my blog but haven’t seen it yet, the fantastic and sweet Submissive Guy Comics released an animated comic about Tavi and I! The exchange pictured happened towards the end of the evening described in Tasting Her. While I’m a bit more…
How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive
There are a lot of posts, guides, lists, and how-tos floating around online telling submissive men how to find themselves a dominant woman. And there are lots of guides available on how to go about dominating a submissive man. But I’ve noticed a distinct lack of guidance and advice specifically for dominant…
Getting off isn’t so easy
Something I remember reading when I first started looking into BDSM was that it wasn’t necessarily sexual for some people. This was a little tricky to grasp for me because it is pretty intensely sexual for me. Well, parts of it are. D/s is definitely how I enjoy my romantic and sexual interactions to play out,…
Vocabulary
Recently I became a moderator for a new subreddit called /r/FemdomCommunity. (A subreddit being sort of like a forum with in a larger forum on the website Reddit, in case you didn’t already know.) I volunteered for the gig, because I am interested in seeing the space evolve into a helpful place…