I’ve got kinda really big news that I‘ve been keeping under my hat. I hope those of you that read regularly aren’t upset that I didn’t spill these beans right away, I have some reasons which I’ll get into in a moment, but I won’t keep you waiting any longer.
I’m dating Professor Chaos! And, Holy fuck is she ever amazing.
I’m sure it seems to have happened even faster to you folks than it does to me, since you’re only getting weekly updates, and not always timely ones (case in point.)
Let me start over from the beginning.
Chaos, who I was aware of in sex/kink blogosphere moved to Seattle in August for grad school. I knew a bit about her from Twitter and some of her posts, and I offered to meet her for coffee. We had a great time, excellent chemistry, she’s so smart and funny and I totally felt bad that I was so attracted to her because I was in a relationship.
A few weeks later we went to the local TNG munch, and neither Tavi, nor the other friend I was going to accompany could make it. So, it was just the two of us and it was a lot of fun.
I asked friends about what I should do about this woman that I was crushing on, I’d never been in a relationship and remotely interested in another woman at the same time. I wasn’t sure if it was just that things were so rough with Tavi at the time, or if I was a bad, lustful, two-timing scumbag…
But, as it turned out I didn’t have to worry for long. Tavi dumped me a few days later. It hurt every bit as much as you’d expect. Thinking about it still hurts, but I didn’t want to spend months and months hermitting and moping over a relationship that always had an expiration date. I was determined to go out and socialize and try to feel good.
We text flirted a lot that week. I offered to trade her dinner if she’d make me cupcakes, So we had a second date lined up before we’d even had our first. We danced on a Thursday, then went out for late light sushi. Saturday, I made her dinner and we watched a movie, and cuddled. I rubbed her feet and we both came clean about our attraction to each other. She said she wouldn’t kiss me till our third date.
On our third date she strode through my front door and pushed me against the wall and kissed me like I’ve always wanted to be kissed.
So, yeah, we’ve been taking it slow…ish. As slow as is possible when you click so well, when everything feels so damn good. She is so, so awesome, and I could gush for a whole other post about how absurdly lucky I am that a smart, accomplished, funny, gorgeous, affectionate, dominant woman wants to be with me. The mere fact that we got together so soon and easily seems unreal.
I’m so happy to be with her, to get to be her toy, this could definitely be a thing.
*Chaos insisted that I make it very clear that I wasn’t poached from my last relationship, that I was on the market before she made a move.