If you weren’t already aware a SAM is a Smart-assed masochist and right now I’m wondering if I am one, or rather am I going to be one? and whether or not that is a bad thing. Obviously whether it’s good or bad would depend on my partner, I know some Dommes won’t play with brats and it seems like a Sam could get annoying pretty quickly.
I wonder since I am a masochist and I am a smart ass, (which of the two most common types of ass is I think the better choice.) but will those two parts of my personality come together at the same time?
At first I think I would be so absurdly happy to be in a D/s relationship that it wouldn’t show. BDSM is for me a sexual thing and I’ve never been inclined to pull faces or make jokes during sexy times in the past. That and how I feel about submission, how excited I am at the prospect of having someone to please and obey seems to point towards me not being a SAM.
On the other hand, I’ve got a rather dry and sarcastic sense of humor, which is more likely to come out when I’m comfortable with someone, so perhaps after a while my smart-assed-ness would begin to shine through. Especially since I have always had a tendency to react in opposition to peoples moods, around grumpy people I’m chipper, during serious discussion I keep thinking of jokes. If you’re sullen I want to to make you smile, if you’re bubbly I want you to turn it down a notch. So if my Domme is very serious about BDSM and very focused on maintaining a certain dignity, I might begin to feel the irresistible urge to tease her, which might make her unhappy.
And heaven help me if I ever find that I can goad my Domme into hitting me harder, or tying me tighter, or… “Hey you call that a blowjob?”