I haven’t written anything in the last week, I’ve got some posts on deck, but nothing I’m going to finish tonight. I have a quick thought that I wanted to put up and see if it sparks discussion.
I see on forums and stuff, dominant/sadist identified people struggling with how dark their fantasies get, and I haven’t noticed much discussion about the ancillary fantasies of submissives.
I get hot by thinking about being used for another’s pleasure, being teased, tortured and humiliated. I get off imagining being the victim of terrible things. And I’m pretty sure that’s OK.
Someday I may get to play at some of these things with someone I trust, someone who cares about my well being, We’ll sit down and talk about what’s OK, and what isn’t, when to stop, how to play some scenario or other out safely.
As long as she’s a good, loving person, who understands the difference between fantasy and reality, then if her fantasies don’t include consent, if thinking about using someone’s body for her pleasure is hot, if she wants to tease, torture and humiliate, if she gets off thinking about doing terrible things, Well, I’m pretty sure that’s Ok too.