Ok, let’s not, since that’s a game that is bound to end in tears and recriminations. Life, dating and relationships are pretty rough for most everyone, and if you’ve got it easy, well then I secretly hate you.
I’m thinking specifically of something a woman identifying as submissive said the other evening. It was along the lines of how difficult it was when her vanilla friends asked her what kind of man she was looking for, and she had to dance around the fact that she wanted a Dom, by couching it in acceptable terms, “Oh I want a guy that likes to take charge” that sort of thing.
I thought if only I could be that straight-forward about it. To be honest and say that I want a smart, funny, Christian woman who wants to own my ass, and inflict all manner of exquisite tortures upon my flesh is right out, but when my friends inquire as to what I’m looking for in a woman, neither is it acceptable for me to say simply that I want a woman who will take charge. Incidentally, I usually go with “I want a woman who reads books,” since that is also an accurate description.
I’m sure it isn’t easy for anyone who can not speak freely of their desires, or personal life to those around them. It sure bugs the hell out of me.
I can only imagine that it will only get harder when I’m trying to conceal bruises from a good nights fun, or if I’m walking with an extra bounce in my step because a ginger switch wants to meet me to discuss maybe getting together for a bit of play. What am I supposed to say? People are sure to get upset if I start responding to all inquiries with “It’s none of your fucking business.”
On a related note, I’m slated to go to a play party this Friday, and I may end up with my back all marked up, and then on Saturday I think I’m going to a vanilla Halloween party, and I need to think of a good, cheap costume that will cover up any evidence of Friday’s fun. I was thinking I’d try doing risky business, but I wasn’t expecting to go platinum blonde.
I’d love to go as Bionic Barry from Archer, but red tracksuits are proving to be hard to find, and expensive as hell. So any suggestions? I will certainly be posting pics if I get a good one.