Something I remember reading when I first started looking into BDSM was that it wasn’t necessarily sexual for some people. This was a little tricky to grasp for me because it is pretty intensely sexual for me. Well, parts of it are. D/s is definitely how I enjoy my romantic and sexual interactions to play out,…
Female Supremacy and other (hot) Myths
Most of my favorite fantasies ride the line between masturbatory imaginings and daydreams. The really hot stuff for me, tends to stretch itself out lazily in my imagination, growing in dimension and playing out in lots of fun little ways. Female Supremacy is something I can do that with. …
Tasting her
In the dim light of her room I light the candles and get undressed as instructed. When she’s ready she comes in, already naked, and tells me to assume the position. I grab the pillow that I will use to muffle my cries and bend over at the end of…
On Orgasm control
Occasionally I’ve seen it suggested in discussions about female dominated relationships that chastity and orgasm control are the height of the power exchange. Sentiments to the effect that once a woman gains authority over that aspect of her partner she can control everything else. That’s bullshit, obviously. At least I hope…
Vocabulary
Recently I became a moderator for a new subreddit called /r/FemdomCommunity. (A subreddit being sort of like a forum with in a larger forum on the website Reddit, in case you didn’t already know.) I volunteered for the gig, because I am interested in seeing the space evolve into a helpful place…
Catwoman: The Difference between Domme and Dominantrix
First off, stop reading my blog and go read this amazing post here, on Delving into Deviance about performative gender roles and BDSM. Dev, if you didn’t know, also wrote The Devaluation of Male Submission which kicked off a whole bunch of dialogue that has made it easier for me…
Dominance by Denial
One of the most common little themes I see floating around the discussion of Femdom relationships is that “the way” to get compliance from your male sub is to deny him sex. Not just sex, but sometimes any touch, or affection or permission to view his partners body. Which, listen…