Submissive in Seattle

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How To find (and catch) a Male Submissive

There are a lot of posts, guides, lists, and how-tos floating around online telling submissive men how to find themselves a dominant woman. And there are lots of guides available on how to go about dominating a submissive man. But I’ve noticed a distinct lack of guidance and advice specifically for dominant…

Getting off isn’t so easy

Something I remember reading when I first started looking into BDSM was that it wasn’t necessarily sexual for some people. This was a little tricky to grasp for me because it is pretty intensely sexual for me. Well, parts of it are. D/s is definitely how I enjoy my romantic and sexual interactions to play out,…

Tell me again, How can a man be submissive and sexy?

I’m still struggling to find a way to be a sexy man. One of my major stumbling blocks is that the foundation of heterosexual male attractiveness in our culture is masculinity, which is always coded as dominant (among other things.) In preparation and inspiration for this post I read another…

Going to bat

The struggle to make male submission an accepted expression of sexuality is obviously just one teeny-tiny part of a larger struggle for the freedom of sexual expression everywhere. It’s one of those instances, where I figure one should lead, follow or get out of the way. I very much appreciate the…

Whatcha whatcha whatcha want?

I’ve been commended by various folks for figuring out and articulating what I want at such a young age (and for choosing to pursue it.) Though even at twenty three I wish I’d figured this stuff out sooner and saved myself  a bit of heart ache along the way. I don’t feel…

Freedom?

You know what I kink on harder than pegging, or spanking, or biting, or gingers? Ownership, and symbols of ownership. It’s hard to explain, My masochism seems to me a relatively innocuous kink compared to the desire to have someone else control my autonomy. Which is why I found it easier to explain my…

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