Earlier this week, Tavi asked me if I could be her ride Friday night. She had a thing for work, and there would be drinking, and she’d appreciate a ride home. Of course I readily agreed, The opportunity to see her, serve her, even for a small task like this is always…
Solicitation all around
In which I solicit your input and then inflict unsolicited advice in return! I’ve got this idea that I’m working on to write out a bit of a guide to finding a male-sub partner, but I’m still collecting information, and trying to put together something that is more helpful than…
What I’ve been up to
I haven’t posted in over a week, which may be causing some of you to worry that I’ve died. Don’t worry, that is not the case. I’ve just been busy and tired, and short on interesting topics that can be easily written about. Lucky for me, a recap of what I’ve been…
Depression bites
I’ve been depressed the past few weeks. I’m having what I tend to think of as a low period, which for me is usually a couple of weeks of intensely negative feelings, lethargy, weariness maybe some aches and pains. I’m fairly certain it’s coming towards a close, or at least a middle, since I’m able…
On Orgasm control
Occasionally I’ve seen it suggested in discussions about female dominated relationships that chastity and orgasm control are the height of the power exchange. Sentiments to the effect that once a woman gains authority over that aspect of her partner she can control everything else. That’s bullshit, obviously. At least I hope…
Vocabulary
Recently I became a moderator for a new subreddit called /r/FemdomCommunity. (A subreddit being sort of like a forum with in a larger forum on the website Reddit, in case you didn’t already know.) I volunteered for the gig, because I am interested in seeing the space evolve into a helpful place…
Talk to your partner!
Seriously, do it. That’s always the answer to relationship questions. Even in… hell, especially in D/s relationships. More communication is a good thing. About once a week I see a thread pop up on /r/BDSMCommunity that goes something like this. My SO is submissive and I’m sort of new to…
Expiration date
You know what I hate about milk? That it expires. As soon as you purchase a gallon of milk you’re haunted by the looming inevitability that it will go sour. Even worse is when the “sell by” date is clear, but you can’t find the “definitely finish or throw out before”…
TMI Tuesday
I’m been rather busy as of late, but I think I need to get at least a quick post up to fill you all in. Sunday night was date night for Tavi and I. She asked me to write up a revised list of hard limits for our transition in…
Escalate this!
As I said, Tavi and I discussed a bit of escalation in our relationship Friday. She’s given me plenty of time to suss out what I want before we move forward, but for the the most part I think I know. If you’ve been reading you know that while we’ve…